The School Called My Kid Fat
I was rolling right along, still not smoking, steadily regaining weight, then bam, I get a BMI notice from the school for my youngest child.
Arkansas started this in 2003 (thanks!), and has been gaining momentum across the country, 20 states now participate in sending “fat letters” home.
BMI is not a diagnostic tool. It does not take into account age, gender, lean mass, or fat mass. It does not take into account activity or lack there of. It does not take into account if a child has asthma and is constantly on steroids either. I will own up the fact that I do not push my child into being more active on a daily basis rather than weekly, and I have let more junk into the house, although he indulges in junk the least of everyone in the house.
Off to the Doctor we went, we updated his asthma plan, which still includes steroids, and the doc talked to my son about being more active. My discussing weight with him was one thing, to have the doctor discuss it was another. This was an outsider, someone he was not comfortable with. He laughed nervously, then tried hard not to cry. He was quiet when we left, he told me part of what was going on is that his best friend didn’t come over as often to do things with, his friend has other after school obligations, I told him we would figure it out and he seemed to feel better and I dropped him off at school. I went home and cried.
I have already purged the house of most high calorie, high sodium food. I am looking into pedometers and mini Wii competitions. I need to step up more. I do not want to constantly bring up his weight and haven’t weighed him since his doctor appointment a few weeks ago. I’m not sure how else to proceed, how to push more without hurting his feelings. He is not alone, I too have weight to lose, I guess one step at a time.